In 1998 I listened to a teleconference with comedian Teri Garr.
She said a complete stranger walked up to her and said, "You poor thing! You have MS!"
Ms. Garr said, "Well, one day there will be a cure for MS, but there will never be a cure for stupid."
A near relative last summer told me I have a much worse life than her. I found this incredibly offensive and ignorant.
Don't place other people into the role of victim because it is only for your satisfaction. It's cruel. Please don't patronize people with disabilities. If you don't know what to say, don't say anything until you educate yourself. -AW